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Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby skatingtripods » Thu Dec 02, 2010 8:35 pm

So my fiancée and I already RSVP'd that we would attend my old college roommate's wedding on New Year's Eve. But now, we've determined that it's going to be too difficult on us financially, especially having to have contingency plans in effect for bad weather since it's in Detroit.

Both families are well off and I'd feel like a pathetic douche citing finances as the reason. What would be the best way to go about telling them that we can't make it?
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby Ziner » Thu Dec 02, 2010 10:28 pm

The way to do it is ASAP. I was fucking pissed when we paid for 7 people that RSVP'd and didnt show up. I bet they haven't given their count yet. As to how to cancel, make something up or just tell the truth. Either way I would just be thankful I didnt pay for someone who didnt show... cause that sucks ass.
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby Cerebral_DownTime » Thu Dec 02, 2010 10:39 pm

You want me to tell them?
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby jb » Fri Dec 03, 2010 12:37 am

I'll do it for 75% of the cost of CDT.

Me?

I'd tell them I had cancer & have to start treatment .
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby peeker643 » Fri Dec 03, 2010 10:06 am

I'd tell them it's effing New Years Eve and I can get a buzz on with friends closer to home and for a lot less cake than what it's cost me in Detroit. With a better chance of surviving regardless of any other city I may be spending it in.

They might be swayed by you mentioning the joy you get out of watching Dick Clark's tongue get stuck on every consonant for two straight hours before the ball drops.

But like Z said, tell them soon and send something you can afford in your place.
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby mattvan1 » Mon Dec 06, 2010 6:23 pm

Tell them you are very sorry but you can't make it. It's none of their business why.
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby comish » Fri Dec 10, 2010 10:39 am

Agree with all above comments. No matter what you tell them, do it SOON!

I've been married over 5 years now, and still haven't forgiven the random retards who cost us money by saying they were coming and then bailing without a "by your leave."

NYE receptions BLOW BTW. Horrible idea, and just a tad narcissistic.
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby jb » Fri Dec 10, 2010 6:57 pm

Tell thm you are taking your talents to Times Square.
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby jack_tors » Sun Dec 12, 2010 7:39 pm

Ziner wrote:The way to do it is ASAP. I was fucking pissed when we paid for 7 people that RSVP'd and didnt show up. I bet they haven't given their count yet. As to how to cancel, make something up or just tell the truth. Either way I would just be thankful I didnt pay for someone who didnt show... cause that sucks ass.



This ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ 1000%. I was limited by money and capacity on the number I could invite. 5 people didnt show up and I was furious. I know for a fact I could have included 5 from the did not invite list to fill that if I knew ahead of time.

Just be open and honest with em. Send something when you can. If they can respect your situation then they arent being much of a friend to you.
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby skatingtripods » Mon Dec 13, 2010 6:28 pm

No exciting outcome. Told him the truth and he said we weren't the only ones who declined because of the timing and the cost. I forgot to mention Dick Clark. Sorry Peek. I still got a laugh out of it, though.
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Re: Wedding RSVP Advice

Unread postby Squints » Mon Dec 13, 2010 6:48 pm

You did the right thing by just telling the truth. No harm, no foul.
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